LGBThursdays: How to Come Out at Work

If you’re LGBTQIA*, coming out to your employers, coworkers, supervisors, and other staff on your team is definitely a personal choice. Some LGBTQIA* people may never feel the need to bring it up, for whatever reason. It may not ever come up in conversation or become an issue. However, many people feel the need to be honest about themselves, or may have specific reasons that require them to be honest – for example, if a transgender employee is facing discrimination for this reason by another coworker, and needs to tell their supervisor, or if a person in a same-sex relationship wants to invite their significant other to a work get-together.

Coming out at work is tricky business, because LGBTQIA* individuals still face workplace discrimination despite all of the community’s recent triumphs. Even in states, cities or counties where discrimination for reasons of sexual orientation or gender identity is illegal, employers can find other reasons to fire an employee to hide behind the truth: discrimination.

If you’re like me, and you want to enter a professional workforce, but you’re really looking to work long-term at a place where, if there’s a work party, you can invite your same-sex spouse, or if you mention your wife and kids, nobody throws up their arms, these tips are for you:

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Loud Hands: Why “Coming Out” as Autistic is Important

As promised, I am adding autism advocacy as a component of this blog. Every other Thursday, I will post LGBThursdays on LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex, asexual) topics and alternating Thursdays I will post Loud Hands on autistic community topics.

Why am I adding autism advocacy to my blog? Most importantly, because I’m autistic. I used to run a side blog just on these issues, but it wasn’t very public and I didn’t feel comfortable sharing it with others. When I came out as bisexual in middle and high school, I never thought I’d have to “come out” again, but I do. I need to tell more people that I’m autistic.

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Dressing up Neutrals: How to Wear Neutral Colors Without Feeling Boring

Before I get into this post about wearing neutrals, I wanted to apologize to all my readers for not updating my LGBThursdays recently. I’m currently in the processing of adding autism advocacy to this blog, and LGBThursdays will switch off every other week with those posts. For now, I apologize for the lag, but I want the new addition to be as smooth as possible.

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I love color. Color is my go-to when it comes to wardrobe. Color and glitter. I’m well known for wearing all-rainbow outfits, or daring colors that draw attention to me. But I also use neutrals a lot, and I own a lot of neutrals. I wanted to talk about how, as a unique fashionista, I navigate the problem of making neutral colored clothing fun.

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